My Dear Sweet Girlfriend,
You gotta STAY IN YOUR MAGIC – whatever magic is for you. Your humor, your candor, your beautiful heart, your soulful endeavors. Whatever drives you mad with enthusiasm and fun, roll in it, and be it. The world is doing its thing. People are doing their things in their own corners. So do your thing and shine in your lane, and build up, and if necessary, reinvent your own magic. Everything else is fluff.
Allow me to expound:
You’ve reached a point where you just want to be elated with who you are. You don’t want anyone telling you how to be (anymore). You’re really liking this imperfect, majorly sexy soul staring back at you in the mirror: you know, YOU. You’re noticing the more you like you, things are starting to change in some interesting ways. You must my friend, keep going towards YOUR MAGIC.
I don’t know your brand of magic, because it ranges in at least 8 billion different ways, and can be anything: mildly sarcastic fun, extremely funny, super smart, intellectually delightful, athletic prowess, nerdy cool, politically perky, super glamorous, etc…you know your magic best. The point is, whatever your magic, hone in on it, immerse yourself in it, and stay in it. Because:
From my mid-life point I can share with confidence that it’s a con when people try to tell you to change what makes you wonderful. Whatever YOU utterly enjoy about yourself, when you’re with yourself, whatever makes you giggle to yourself or when you’re with your friends, whatever makes you weird (if it does), keep being it. Really pound the bejesus out of being it!
Ignore things that you barely are. You need to, and I know I’m being repetitive here, you need to be more of yourself. Yes, some friends will fall off, but it’s my theory (and I’m willing to be wrong here), that the real juicy ones, will love you even more. And even wilder, I think friends (new or lifetime), the heart mate ones, will be drawn to you more and find YOU.
Don’t worry too much about it though…STAY IN YOUR MAGIC! Be totally enthralled by yourself, and with yourself. Other people are a bonus.
On duty for our magic,