I’ve always wanted to try a bold short pixie haircut (a tall order for curly hair), so I dared myself and went super pixie short. I went short last year, but this time it’s so short, my curls got a fade! Now going in, I thought, “why not look like Halle?”…right? So when the hair dresser spun me around to face the mirror…ahem…turns out my hair is not like Halle’s, and SHOCKINGLY, neither is my face! Note to self: Realize this BEFORE the cut!
Anyhoo, when going über short a few things happen (well, they happened to me):
- Your face is out OUT there. (You can up the makeup game for more fun and drama)
- So are you ears!
- You may potentially think you look like a boy, because short hair is mostly associated with males. And because it’s strange to see yourself like this at first.
- You could potentially look like you’re about to make your coming out of the closet announcement…depending on the cut/how you wear it. My sister and I giggled at this for the first few days of my cut. I loved it!
If you’re a mom:
Your son MAY look at you shocked and remark, “You’re not my mom! I don’t know you! My mom has long hair!” Then he may proceed to call you “stranger” for at least an hour. Or…maybe that’s just my son.
However, bizarrely some kids form a “mommies have long hair” mindset very early. But they get over their hang ups eventually.
Everyday acquaintances may remark: “Ohhh, you cut your hair.”
You’ll say: Yes
They’ll say:
That’s right. Nothing! They just thought they’d be loudly observant. You’ll then give them a side eye and keep moving.
On the BRAVE and awesome side:
1) You’ll have done what you’ve always wanted to! My cut took a bit of getting used to, but I LAH-OVE it!
2) You won’t care what people think! Because:
- Don’t they have their own follicles to focus on?
- You only make time to defy the rules of convention and expectations
3) Your kids will see that mommies can do whatever they want with their hair, and they’ll STILL be mommies.
4)Your natural platinum highlights/silvers/greys will shine prominently!
Semi-finally, let me address the “but Mandy, you don’t understannndddd…your curls are not like mmiinnneee…but your texture….blah, blah, blah!” For the love of all that an eye roll can offer! Go forth and get the best, most chic, brave, haircut/style for YOU possible. Take the bold plunge and “Create whatever causes a revolution in your heart”…and with your hair!
Lastly, even if, in fact, especially if, you get the “we don’t wear our hair like that here”, or some other garbage, I’m encouraging outright rebellion. The rules don’t apply to you. Short, long, natural, pink, whatever…do your own hair thing! Your confidence sky rockets when you care about what you like the best.
p.s. I’ll be featuring more diverse hair stories of women who took risks with their hair and gained confidence when they wore it how they wanted to. So come again for those stories!
